Dear Danielle: Which Comes First- Security or Happiness?

Dear Danielle Life + Relationship Advice

Q: “Hi Danielle… My husband is from New Zealand and I am from Colombia. We were living in Colombia until I finished my degree, and then moved to NZ where we had always dreamed of settling down. But I really struggled to find a job there, as I was a foreigner, recently graduated and with […]

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Dear Danielle: Will I ever find love or should I just give up?

Dear Danielle Life + Relationship Advice

This original question has been edited to protect the identity of the submitter. Q: “Hi Danielle, my name is Emily and I’m an incredibly shy and awkward 22 year old that recently graduated college. I’ve never had a boyfriend, never been kissed or gone on a date and never even been flirted with. I know […]

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Dear Danielle: Education vs. A Future Career Love?

Dear Danielle Life + Relationship Advice

Q:  Hi, my name is Amanda and I am 20 years old and need some advice on my future career. I’ve been raised with not very much, and my family always said that the key to happiness later in life is getting a solid education. Although I think this is true, I don’t want to […]

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Dear D, I’m Getting Mixed Messages From A Guy

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Hello Danielle, I met this amazing guy on a dating site, he was very sweet, funny, charming, cute, smart and great to talk to. Everyday, he would text me and/or call me first, and even send me cute little good morning texts. Two weeks later, we decided to meet up and we finally did, five […]

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Dear D: My Boyfriend and I Broke Up + I Don’t Know Why

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Dear D, I was just dumped really unexpectedly by my boyfriend of 9 months.  Our relationship was fun and sexy and totally on track to go somewhere. I had no idea that anything was wrong, but a few nights ago he announced that he’d been feeling “emotionally dull” and that “this just wasn’t what he […]

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Dear D: How do I find my calling?

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Dear D, I did all the right things to get up and out of my small town – worked hard, went to an amazing college, paid my own way, graduated with honors, got into Teach for America (a prestigious program), and now I don’t know what my calling is. How do I find it? How […]

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Dear D: How Do I Get My Man To Help Around The House?

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Dear D, I’m really struggling with finding a happy balance between accountability and flexibility with my husband.  If he says he’s going to do something (read instead of watch TV, go to the gym, take out the garbage) and then doesn’t do it, I often find myself upset because he didn’t do what he said […]

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Dear D: I Used To Date Terrible Men. Why Don’t I Feel A Spark With My New Nice Guy?

Dear D I used to date bad men

Hi Danielle! Like many women, I’ve got a string of bad relationships behind me. In fact, every husband/boyfriend/lover I’ve had through the years has been either a substance abuser, domestic abuser, married or chronically unemployed. I’ve had therapy in the past and I certainly don’t want to repeat this pattern in my future. I’ve met […]

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Dear D: I need high-minded, sleeves rolled up, FREE advice

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I am accepting + welcoming “Dear D” letters for my advice column. How it works: You’ve got: A conundrum. Some serious confusion. You think you might even feel a headache coming on Not to mention a plethora of questions You Need: Advice Nuts and bolts hashing it out To be reminded of your greatness Tough-love […]

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Dear D: I Can’t Stop Thinking of My Ex-Boyfriend

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Dear Danielle, About a year ago now, I separated from my boyfriend. We’d been dating and living together for three years going four. We were both French citizens, living in London so things got pretty serious pretty fast.  Because he knew I was in a tough spot, he invited me to move in with him […]

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