Editor’s Note, 2025:
This post was first written in 2013, back when my voice leaned more toward “cheerleader” energy—full of fire and declarations, but without much of the grounded practicality I’ve grown into since. I’m keeping it here in From the Archives (2011–2021) because sometimes we need a reminder that possibility is real and power is ours to claim, even if the delivery is a little extra. Consider this an artifact of where I was then—and perhaps a spark you can borrow for today.
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Actually, you can. You can change your life—at any time, in any season.
You can do even better;
shine even brighter.
Quit and start over.
You can ignore that critic, the one that whispers you’re not ready — and instead lead a quiet revolution in your own life.
You can say screw it + change your mind.
Love whom you choose.
Pursue your heart’s desire.
You can defy the odds.
Want more. Do more. Be more.
You can say no.
Say yes.
Wait, to say anything until the answer arrives.
You can pause.
Intend.
Declare.
Triumph.
Remember: you can change your life with even the smallest shift in choice or perspective.
You can….. and will. Maybe not perfectly, maybe not all at once — but steadily, surely, and in your own way.
It’s so, so easy to slip into self-doubt and anxiety. And we all need the occasional reminder that we’re capable of amazing things. Every moment is a chance to choose again — to say yes, no, or not yet — and that choice is its own kind of triumph.
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