Am I Doing This Right?

it's ok

No, you do not have to wash your hair every day; only when it’s dirty. But yes, you must wash your face every night–thought its find just to rinse in the morning. Yes, you should always send a card or an email or call after a dinner party. No, you don’t have to apologize for disagreeing.  No, you don’t have to have curtains–or table settings for eight (or even four). No, you don’t need a signature fragrance. Yes, there is lead in your lipstick –but not enough to harm you, unless you’re eating 15 tubes a day. What’s the healthiest thing to have first thing in the morning? A stretch and some fruit. (And also some gratitude. And right before bed? More gratitude.)No, you don’t need to brush your hair, except to style it.  Yes, you do want to think twice about anything you post on social media.  No you don’t have to answer the phone whenever it rings. Yes, it’s fine not to know what comes next; you’ll figure it out. It’s also fine to wear your hair at any length you please, no matter what your age.  Yes, you should probably get a skin cancer check once a year. And Yes, you must know where your money is–and double check you know for sure. No, you don’t want to compare, because comparing is the death of happiness. But yes, you might want to compete because in the right context (say a Flywheel class) competition can be very motivating. Yes, you can be dear friends with your exes. Yes, you do have to forgive your parents, but first you have to forgive yourself.

And: yes you can, yes you will, yes!

–Valerie Monroe


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