Monday Motivation: How You Become REAL

Hey babe, happy Monday!  Growing up I had a short stack of childhood books that brought me great joy. And while many have gone missing over the years there is one in particular I have cherished with great care, The Velveteen Rabbit.  If you are not familiar it is the timeless nursery story of a toy rabbit that becomes real through the love of a child. The author, Margery Williams, understood how toys–and people–become real through the wisdom and experience of love. 

Recently, while cleaning out a hallway closet I came across my copy of the book and was inspired to share what, I think, are the most memorable sentiments of the story. Because man-oh-man does it speak to the inevitable pain and beauty of living a vulnerable, open and authentic existence. The truth? Being Real sometimes hurts. The alternative to being real, however, is unimaginable.

“Real isn’t how you are made,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.’

‘Does it hurt?’ asked the Rabbit.

‘Sometimes,’ said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. ‘When you are Real you don’t mind being hurt.’

‘Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,’ he asked, ‘or bit by bit?’

It doesn’t happen all at once,’ said the Skin Horse. ‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”
― Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

Life’s magic is very strange and wonderful, let’s try not to be afraid of being in imperfect shape…for that means we’re not left on the shelf, untouched and unharmed.  Let’s embrace our stuffing being enthusiastically squeezed out of us!  I want to endure all that Love is for the sake of being Real…the good days and bad. You too?

Go courageously,


Image Credit: Amy Stone


  1. I love this! So inspirational and so true! This is so encouraging to young women who think “perfect” exists. I have chosen to accept my brokenness and imperfections and live for real. Thanks for the Monday Motivation. You are incredible!!

  2. I loved this! Especially, ‘You become. It takes a long time.’ I often wonder what life would be like if we just gave some more time for things to happen, instead of rushing and passing it off as nothing…


  3. I love this D! I recently wrote a post about how being perfect actually limits how successful we are as it holds us back and 100% agree – it’s much better to be real than trying to be perfect all the time!! xx

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