Mom. Author. Coach.
About
I’m interested in what happens when women stop assuming they’re the problem — and start questioning the expectations, systems, and stories they’ve been handed.
My work lives at the intersection of psychology, Motherhood, identity, and the invisible work women carry.
Cassette Tapes, Sauvignon Blanc + Epiphanies
I’ve been helping people figure themselves out since before I was old enough to legally order a glass of Sauvignon Blanc.
I’ve been fascinated by human potential since I was 9 years old, when my father introduced me to Norman Vincent Peale, Tony Robbins, and the mystical world of Jerry and Esther Hicks. Walkman clipped to my hip, Wayne Dyer cassette playing, I’d relish long, soul-inspiring bike rides around my childhood home. “It’s only going to get bigger and better from here,” I beamed!
That curiosity never really left me. I still want to know what makes us come alive, what gets in our way, and what helps us find our way back to ourselves when life inevitably knocks us around a little.
I believe deeply in growth, possibility, and the magic that can happen when we understand ourselves better. I also believe in a good glass of Sauvignon Blanc, a hard-earned epiphany, and asking the kinds of questions that change things.
What’s the point of life if not to be delighted by it?
Your Secrets Are Safe With Me
After a decade in corporate America, I went back to graduate school and earned both a master’s and doctorate in psychology (Psy.D.). I eventually left the corporate world behind and built a personal growth coaching practice that has now spanned 15 years and more than 12,000 hours of one-on-one work.
That’s 12,000+ hours of sitting across from people as they’ve told me the things they don’t always say out loud—the fears, frustrations, heartbreaks, ambitions, contradictions, and questions underneath the life everyone else sees.
And somewhere along the way, I became interested not only in why we are the way we are, but in the expectations we’ve been handed about who we’re supposed to be. Becoming a Mom—and eventually writing Good Girl, Bad Mom —brought that question into even sharper focus for me.
That’s a big part of what my personal development work is about now: helping women understand themselves with more compassion, while also questioning the stories, expectations, and systems that have taught them to question themselves.
P.S. More than a few friends, clients, and loved ones have dubbed me “the world’s best secret keeper.”
these are a few of my favorite things
- / Smashed avocado (on everything)
- / Angel Cards, palo santo, mysticism
- / Chocolate chip cookies
- / An open window
- / The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel
- / Red lipstick
- / Ella Fitzgerald + Thelonis Monk
- / Rainy days
- / Pen + paper
of my favorite things
Love, Marriage + A Little One
I’m turning 50 this year. Old enough to know a few things, young enough to know I definitely don’t know everything.
For a long time, I thought I’d be single forever. I questioned everything—my intelligence, my body, my bank account, my aging face. There was despair. Deep self-inquiry. Tear-streaked journal pages. And then… most thrillingly… love.
There was a diamond ring, a wedding at 38, and plenty of uncertainty about whether I would ever become a Mom. And finally, one late winter evening, an adorable baby boy named Aiden.
Becoming a Mom at 40 changed me in ways I could never have anticipated. I loved my son ferociously. I also found Motherhood harder, messier, more consuming, and far more complicated than I had imagined it would be.
For a woman who had spent most of her life trying to get things “right,” Motherhood was one hell of an education. Eventually, that collision between the woman I had been and the Mother I was becoming would become Good Girl, Bad Mom — and change the direction of my work along with it.
I am deeply proud of the person Aiden has helped me become. I’ve never been so worn or so real or so loved.
Most of all…
I don’t live in an ivory tower
I live in the real world, where life is messy and complicated. I’m a Mom, a wife, a business owner, a daughter who has lived through caregiving and loss, and a woman with big ambitions and a finite number of hours in the day.
I know what it feels like to love your life and still feel overwhelmed by it. To be deeply grateful and deeply tired. To have work that matters to you, people who need you, things you want for yourself, and not nearly enough time or energy to give everything what you think it deserves.
For a long time, I assumed the answer was to get better at managing myself. Become more efficient. More resilient. More disciplined. Figure out how to carry it all a little more gracefully.
My training in psychology has given me an extraordinary lens through which to understand people. And 12,000+ hours of sitting across from women have taught me even more.
But some of the most important things I know have come from living inside many of the same conditions they’re trying to navigate.
That’s a big part of what my work is about now: helping women understand themselves with more compassion, while making room for the possibility that they were never the whole problem to begin with.
I’VE SPENT YEARS HELPING WOMEN CREATE LIVES THEY LOVE.
These days, I’m increasingly interested in the expectations we’ve inherited about what those lives are supposed to look like, and what becomes possible when we start questioning them.
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