The One Thing I Do to Overcome Resentment

Resentment Two Umbrellas Hanging

I don’t have it all together.

I think that, perhaps, there’s a misconception that I do. That because I have a successful coaching business and because I got my M.A. and PsyD in psychology, and because I married the love of my life, I’ve got it all figured out.

There’s this idea that I never struggle when it comes to love or abundance or my career. But that’s just not true.

I still struggle. I just know how to come out the other side of it.

I know that I always have a choice.

I’ll give you an example: I don’t always get what I want.

(Imagine that!)

Occasionally, the Universe has other plans for me, and the plans that I’ve made for myself have to change. I get it, in theory—but that’s not always easy to accept in practice.

And, about a week ago, I woke up feeling really resentful. I had wanted something
to happen.

Like, really really wanted it to happen. And it didn’t.

Manifesting money, abundance, romance, pretty much anything, is what I do—it’s what I teach!—so I was sure I would get what I had set my heart on. But it wasn’t supposed to be.

Instead of recognizing and understanding that, though—instead of understanding that this opportunity wasn’t mine to get, and there are likely much better things headed my way—I was upset. I was consumed by it, and found myself spinning out because of it.

I began to feel more and more drained by my thoughts around the situation. It was then that I remembered what I teach, what I preach, and what I know to be true through example and experience:

I have a choice.

I may not have gotten what I wanted (or what I thought I wanted), in this particular instance, but I wasn’t a victim here. I still got to choose how I felt and how I responded and how I continued to live my life. I had a choice.

Often, we want to think that we’re victims of the Universe; prey to its whims and its judgments, as if we have no say in the matter. But we do have a say: we get to choose how we feel, how we respond, and how we show up in every given instance.

And if I showed the Universe that not getting this one thing I thought I wanted was going to make me spin out of control? Well, it’s not likely it’d show up with more opportunities to hand me.

So, I sat near an open window in my living room, reflecting on the openness and expansion that I felt and reminding myself over and over again: “I have a choice. I choose to release my resentment. I choose to release what no longer serves me, so I can receive what does. I release so that I may receive.”

I release so that I may receive.

I release so that I may receive.

I release so that I may receive.

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

My reaction—of resentment, of hurt, of replaying both feelings over and over in my mind—was a natural one; but not the spiritual one. And it wasn’t likely to bring more abundance into my life.

So I remembered that I wasn’t victim to the thoughts that kept spinning through my head. I had a choice about how I wanted to feel and what I wanted to receive in that moment, and you do too.

Every single moment of every single day.

If you want to call more of anything into your life—more money, more love, more work—you must first make a choice. You must choose to release your resentment, and release what no longer serves you.

Release so that you may receive, darling. As many times as you need to.

I know I had to repeat it for a few days myself. But there was relief and hope in my surrender—and confidence, too; confidence that I will soon receive what it is I am truly seeking in exactly the way I am meant to receive it.

I want that hope, that relief, and that confidence for you too, my love.

Make a choice to release.
To release what no longer serves you.
To release so that you can receive.
To release so that you can feel peace.