Last week we began a three part inspirational series on how to have it all or rather, on how not to get overwhelmed when you’re trying to have it all. I shared what I believe to be the first step in feeling like you can create and manage more in your life without losing it:
Yup, that’s right! I suggested allowing fun to be a barometer of your success. I admit that for an ambitious, striving individual that sometimes fun can be an afterthought. We can often find ourselves feeling completely bogged down by all we have to do and all we think we need to accomplish and I’m learning that—not focusing on fun gives stress the power to dismantle us. It will slow us down, block us and cut us off from our capacity to create all we desire in the world. I’m not promoting watching Netflix all day every day with a plate full of pizza rolls because that won’t serve you either. I’m simply intimating that the electric charge of fun would make navigating the working world more enjoyable. How and where can you add a smidge more fun and release into your days?
Step two in feeling like you can create and manage more in your life is understanding and accepting:
When I first heard this statement I felt a massive wave of relief flood over me. My shoulders literally relaxed and slid down from around my ears. It was exactly what I needed to hear in that moment and hopefully it’s what you need to hear today as well. As driven individuals we can often find ourselves feeling the need to juggle everything so we can “have it all” and all at once. There is a misperception that having it all at once equates to deep success and happiness. No one has it all, all at once. Even celebrities who traditionally appear to have it all have experienced struggling in their own way.
“Trauma and struggle are an indivisible part of human existence. It takes many forms but spares no one.” — Dr. Mark Epstein
You don’t need to be superwoman. Maybe you are at a time in your life when you want to focus on your career, maybe it’s time to focus on relationship, perhaps you want to focus on your body and health or school and family and that is beautiful. It’s more than OK to only focus on a specific niche at any point in your life. The key is trusting and knowing that the balance comes with redirecting and refocusing when it’s needed to change.
Until then practice being kind to yourself and respect what feels like a priority in this moment. Inevitably your inner clock work will shift; try to trust that you too will shift in attunement.
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