I’ve heard it before + I am not having it.
Not. at. all.
Don’t tell me you’re afraid of opening up or:
Because you’re not.
Petrified of loss?
Sorry, it’s just not true.
Don’t want to write it, sing it, or declare it
because you fear you won’t measure up?
Well, of course you would so don’t say
you’re afraid of not being “good enough.”
This would be inaccurate.
So what is it – really – that’s blocking you from your awesome?
What’s keeping you stuck at square one?
What’s causing you to keep running into the same damn brick wall?
Fear of PAIN to be specific.
But certainly nothing less.
Our nature is to avoid pain at all costs.
I’m not intimating that fear of pain is not legitimate. Of course it is. It’s part of our humanity.
I’m just suggesting it’s not nearly as reasonable of an excuse as you think.
Don’t allow pain to remain as pain.
It has to evolve.
Be kneaded out.
Transform it into material you can work with.
Know with every fiber of your being that what you want the most: the relationship, the career, the body, the chance– all lie on the other side of your willingness to change.
It’s time to proactively change your relationship with pain.
Yes, it was a bad relationship.
But they all don’t have to be.
Feel the pain of it potentially not working out + call him back anyway.
Yes, there was a poor career choice, or a few poor career choices.
That major blunder in front of the new client? It was a doozy!
Launched it, made it, shipped it + it failed?
None a good enough reason to not take a 2nd or 52nd go at it.
Pain will mis-communicate.
It will tell you you are not good at relationships + shouldn’t bother.
That you’re a failure as an entrepreneur and should just go get a ‘safe’ job.
That you’re terrible at saving money so why start now?
That you’ve always been overweight so what’s the point of a jumping on the treadmill today?
Pain will lie to you.
And you will be tempted to believe it
+ limit yourself to a world that is small, safe + predictable.
You will suffocate, here.
(You don’t have to.)
Feel the legitimacy of your pain.
Mine it for gems of wisdom.
But refuse to allow it to keep you from what you want the most.
There is no real brick wall, roadblock or insurmountable obstacle.
Just your illusory version of one.
The ultimate antidote to pain?
After all….it’s just pain.
Which is hardly a final curtain.