Reflections on self-worth, boundaries, emotional strength, and feminine power—this women’s empowerment blog helps you rise without self-abandonment.
I’ve been thinking a lot about job descriptions. Not because I’m looking for a new job. God, no. Your girl has enough jobs. But because it’s occurred to me that nearly every legitimate job comes with some sort of description of what, exactly, you’re expected to do. If you’re a dentist, there’s a job description. […]
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I’m very good at resting once everything is done. The problem, of course, is that everything is never done. There’s always an email I could answer, something sitting on the kitchen counter that belongs somewhere else, a load of laundry to throw in, an appointment to make, or some random thing I suddenly remember at […]
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There are approximately 4,000 opportunities a day to feel guilty as a Mother. You worked too much. You didn’t work enough. You lost your patience. You let them have the iPad because you needed 20 minutes to hear yourself think. You didn’t play with them when they asked because, frankly, you didn’t want to play […]
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There are times in life when ongoing support makes sense. You’re in the middle of something big, things are shifting, and frankly, it would be nice to have someone in your corner while you figure out what the hell you’re doing. And then there are times when you’ve been thinking about the same damn thing […]
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So the other day I caught myself standing in the kitchen trying to make another tiny decision. I honestly can’t even remember what it was. But I remember thinking, likely mentally screaming, Why does it feel like I’ve been deciding things all day?! It wasn’t one big decision that had exhausted me. It was dozens […]
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A few weeks ago, I found myself thinking about a question that should have taken all of five seconds to answer. Instead, it followed me home. It started over coffee in the Berkshires with one of my favorite people, Heather Campbell. Vacation has a funny way of slowing conversations down. Without calendars, school pickups, or […]
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Quick holiday confession: Quick holiday confession: I am a recovering good girl, people pleaser, and praise-powered overachiever. No wonder holiday boundaries for Moms feel so impossible—we were trained to make everyone else comfortable first. If everyone walked away pleased, I was “good.” If anyone was disappointed, I felt like I had failed at being a […]
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M is for Mother Throughout my debut memoir, Good Girl, Bad Mom, you’ll notice something unusual: I choose to capitalize Motherhood. Mom, Mother, and Motherhood are always written with a capital M — not just when they’re used as formal titles, but everywhere. It’s deliberate. Somewhere along the way, I started thinking about how easily […]
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I haven’t told you yet, but my Mother passed away in November 2022. It’s been a little more than two years, and I hadn’t quite worked up the courage, the stamina, to talk about it. Grief is interesting that way, it has no real timeline. “They” say it does, but it doesn’t. Technically, there are […]
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My friend swans into brunch looking remarkably well-rested and relaxed. She tucks the napkin into her lap, sighs happily, and launches into an endorsement of the amazing spa where she just spent a three day weekend. “You’ve got to check it out, girl. You’re always talking about self-care, you deserve some yourself!” I know. I […]
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I spent an enormous amount of my twenties and thirties swimming in the dating pools of NYC and L.A., asking myself some version of the question “Maybe I’d be happier with someone else?” At the time, I didn’t even realize that’s what I was asking myself. Instead, I wondered if maybe I shouldn’t be dating […]
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You Hold the Key to Your Joy. Here’s How to Unlock It We all want it—joy. That deep, soulful sense of contentment that feels like a warm hug for your spirit. But here’s the thing: joy is something you create, not something you wait for. In the past, I’ve caught myself waiting for joy to […]
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Self-acceptance is the act of embracing all that you are, where you are, and how you are. It’s the ability to acknowledge and find peace with what is while also looking forward in anticipation of what can be. I’ve never been particularly “good” at this, but then again, few are, yes? It seems our desire […]
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The Power of Choice and Gratitude in Protecting Personal Freedom If life didn’t seem serious enough, the world events from the last few months, the war in Ukraine, rising inflation, have compounded an already present sense of angst. And then came the recent Supreme Court ruling overturning Roe v. Wade. This was more than a […]
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Is crying self-care? You bet your bottom dollar it is! Crying is not only a form of self-care but also self-compassion. It is not, as some might say, weak or a waste of time. In fact, crying and releasing pent-up anger, upset, and angst can be the fastest way to relief all around. May I […]
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Bliss. What does this word mean for you? Most likely, it brings to mind something wonderful—a moment of bliss, like ice cream before dinner, or sticking your feet in an ice-cold pool on a blistering hot day. It might be the bliss of anticipation before a kiss or the deep satisfaction of completing a job […]
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A Fresh Take on Expectations vs. Anticipation You know what makes me anxious? Unmet expectations. You too? Expectations rarely help me meet my true intention: to feel good. Expectation, as I see it, is tying your feelings to whether something happens a certain way, or whether someone else acts a certain way. And when those […]
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What if you were to ask yourself, what are your un-priorities? Priorities. What does that word conjure up for you when you hear it? It has a rather serious tone to it, doesn’t it? A weighty tone, even. A “you better take notice of this” tone. But what if you turned the word upside down? […]
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Today is a great day to mind your own business.To butt out, as they say. Do such statements conjure feelings of insult?Do they leave you feeling aghast?Or does it feel liberating, sensical even? How often do you find yourself engulfed in the business of others?Consumed by their drama and the resolution of their ensuing “problems?” […]
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3 Healthy Ways to Cope With Failure What if I told you that failure doesn’t actually exist?There’s no “win/lose”—only “win/learn,” which, in reality, is just “win/win.” I know, it may sound totally different from what you’ve been taught. You’ve probably heard your whole life that you’re fallible—that failure, pain, and disappointment are inevitable side effects […]
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Why Do I Feel Guilty for Being Happy? We tend to feel guilty about being happy when someone we know is in pain. We feel callous, insensitive and cruel when we rejoice or bask in our joy as the world experiences different states of unrest or strife. But sometimes the guilt is less obvious. Nothing […]
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Learning the Hard Way: Why I Needed to Heal My Relationship with Money Boy, did I have a lot to learn about money! The spending of it, making of it and saving of it. We often hear that money is an energetic response to our energetic output. Meaning, if we are easy about it, feeling […]
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I worked so hard, following every “how-to” rule and program I could find. I thought that by pushing myself relentlessly, I’d reach success faster. But I learned that the key to true success is not in massive action—it’s in inspired action for career success. This shift allowed me to stop living on autopilot and start […]
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The Search for Worth Outside Myself Ah, how long in life I have spent looking for validation outside of me. Perhaps not in an obvious way to those around me. And yet, nonetheless, I peered over the horizon of my soul in hopes another would reflect back how worthy and worthwhile I am. I have […]
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Why Silence Is the Gateway to Self-Trust I relish in a quiet room, in the morning, in the stillness. A steaming cup of Earl Grey tea, the wind in the trees, a bird or two in the distance. In these rare gaps of space, I can actually hear myself. It’s in silence that my heart […]
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